Sometimes, plans change. Sometimes, things do not go the way that we think they're going to. Sometimes, our life looks opposite of how we think it's going to.
That's kind of how my life has been lately. In case you missed my last post, Asa and I have postponed our wedding. Clearly, this has been a huge alteration to how my life was planned to go this year. I was going to get married a month from today, move to Maryland, go to Cancun, and start my life with Asa. Now, I'm not getting married, I'm going to continue to live at home, Cancun has been cancelled, and Asa and I will be continuing with a long distance relationship. Sometimes, plans change.
What do we do when life changes like that? What do we do when our world is turned sideways and things have to be reversed, undone, and changed? I've learned a few things in the last month about when our path makes a u-turn, and I want to share them with you.
This has always been a pretty common topic on my blog, because it's something that I have a hard time with. However, it's the only thing that has gotten me through this last month. I have been clinging to Proverbs 3:5-6. "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight."
I'm a little bit of a control freak in the way of I like to know what's going on and I like (need, whatever) to have a plan and to know what is happening. I don't do well with plans changing or things coming up at the last minute. Working on it. This last month, I've HAD to trust the Lord with all my heart and NOT lean on my own understanding because I don't have any understanding for what has been happening. What I DO understand though, is that God has my best interest in mind. God has my life under control, which means I don't need to. God knows EXACTLY why everything that has happened this last month happened. So even when I'm freaking out about the newness of all of this, God knows what the next step is.
Friends, when your life takes a turn that you didn't expect, when your heart breaks, or a loved one passes away, or you lose a job, or you move to a new place... God is in control! He KNOWS what is best for you and only wants you to trust Him and give your worries and fears to Him! He's got you in His arms. Lean on Him!
Take it Day by Day
Not every day is going to be easy... but not every day will be horrible. There have been days where all I've wanted to do is lay in bed with a box of chocolate and binge watch Netflix all day. There have also been days that I wanted to go out and enjoy the sunshine or hang out with friends or go shopping. When something drastic (or even something smaller) changes in your life, emotions will happen. I repeat, emotions WILL happen. Taking things one step at a time, one day at a time, is one of the best things you could do for yourself. Allow yourself to feel emotions, but don't let them control you. Allow yourself days to do nothing, but make sure there are days that you're out and about. Show yourself grace, things happen and that's okay.
Do Something You Enjoy
Doing something you enjoy can be a huge stress reliever. For me, that's painting, blogging, writing, taking pictures and basically just being creative. Also singing, maybe it's just me but I always feel better after belting out a few songs into a hair brush. ;)
For you, that thing may be going for a walk, talking to your bestie on the phone, taking a nap, painting your nails, going to the movies, doing some retail therapy, going for a drive, cooking, baking or anything else! Whatever you do to relieve stress, DO IT. Allow yourself the time to have some "me time" when you're stressed or when life takes an unexpected turn... you may just go crazy if you don't. Also, invest in some aromatherapy stress relief lotion from Bath & Body Works... I'm telling you, the stuff is amazing. Oh, and listen to worship music... that always takes the stress off too.
These are the ways that I've learned to cope with changing plans. Life happens and when it does, we need to know how to keep on living. I hope that these three things have been helpful to you.
How do you deal with the twists and turns of life? I'd love to hear from you in the comments below!